5 Ways to Determine When a “Friend” is Toxic For Your Life
If you’re someone who has great empathy and compassion you may find yourself in compromising friendships because you’re overlooking the signs. Here are 5 signs to determine if you’re in toxic friendships.
1. They Only Tell You What You Want To Hear
Friends who always tell you what you want to hear are either comfortable with their own mediocrity, afraid to hurt your feelings or intimidated by you in some fashion. No matter the reason, you must surround yourself with those who are willing to hold you accountable. Friends who give you constructive criticism typically want to see you grow. The feedback should be reciprocated, so you are creating
2. They’re Always Criticizing You
On the contrary, do you have a friend or friends that are always speaking negative? No matter what you do, they only give you negative feedback. They refuse to celebrate your successes and often deflect when you share an accomplishment? These are friends who typically reach out to you for help and you’re there without hesitation, but when you are in need, they are
3. They Lack Consistency in Your Friendship
So you don’t have to be attached to your friends 24/7. That’s not necessary. But you don’t want friends who only show up when it is beneficial to them or when it is convenient– they may show up every blue moon, l go above and beyond to make you feel accepted and give the allusion that everything is okay. And then they disappear when their purpose is served (sounds violating huh?). You may not hear from them or if you attempt to hang out or need them–somehow they’re never available. Relationships that empty you out, but do not fill you up are a waste of time. Cut them off.
4. They’re Consistently Speaking Negative Of Others
If you have someone or someones in your circle who speak negative consistently about others–especially others who they call friends, be careful. What makes you believe they aren’t doing the same when you’re not around? Trust is important in any relationship, if you can’t trust the people around you– you must reconsider your friendships.
5. They’re Controlling & Manipulative
If you notice friends or even family who disappear along your journey of growth and evolution, it’s okay. Friends and family who had even a little control over you (emotions, life decisions) become disappointed when they lose that power. They will attempt to
Toxic friendships are an oxymoron. Friendships should not be hard, we discuss toxic relationships often, but you can have friendships that are toxic and abusive. Always love yourself first in any situation and never be afraid to get out of
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