Online Dating Tips
For some, finding people to date is hard, especially after long periods of dud after dud. And now, more than ever dating is more difficult. There are so many online dating and social media platforms for the hopeless romantic.
In an effort to combat the anxiety of finding your partner quicker, services like OkCupid, and Match.com advertise expertise in helping you find your perfect match.. and fast. However, more often, the opposite is the case. A lot of the trouble with modern dating tends to rise from having so many options. The convenience of the services has also fostered a demand for the convenience of the person. Our generation is losing value in the time it takes to get to know someone. There’s so much instant gratification that comes from meeting others online, that people can too often be treated as disposable. That is why when looking for a mate online, you must possess the right mindset. We’ve compiled 5 tips help you out:
1. Right Intentions
First and foremost when starting online dating, you must ask yourself is this right for me? And what are my intentions? Am I looking for my life partner? Or someone to just keep me company? Your answer to these questions will dictate how you navigate online dating. You’ll also want to consider this when choosing a partner. You may be in it for a casual relationship, but the person you meet may be wanting something more. Setting clear expectations when meeting others online will relieve the burden of rejection and give you a clear understanding of what you will and will not tolerate.
2. Build an Honest Profile
Your profile is their first impression of who you are. From the pictures you choose to your bio, this is what ultimately captures the initial attention, so find unique pictures of yourself, not just bathroom selfies. Write interesting facts about yourself, not just the basics like “long walks on the beach” or “I’m not good at bios, so.” Be the most honest representation of yourself, while also being the kind of person you’d love to date.
3. Take Your Time To Get To Know Them
With most dating apps the only sense of a person you come across is the first picture on their profile. Most people don’t read the bios of the account if they’re not looking for something serious, and if they do, it’s only after they view the pictures. So, when you’re browsing the selection of potential dates, take your time. Click the profile, go through the pictures, read the bios. People are more than their profile pictures, and 9 times out of 10 the person is interesting with just a bad profile. They’re hard to make, which is why two one is the very important!
4. Take It At Your Pace
Not everyone moves fast. Not everyone moves slow. People move at different paces, and you need to respect that. Dating is a scary thing, but it doesn’t have to be unbearable and uncomfortable just because someone is unhappy with your pace. If someone asks you to go faster than you want, then they’re not worth your time. If you’re moving too fast for someone, speak up and be honest with them. If they have any issues with your boundaries, pack your bags and move on.
5. Respect the Distance
Talking to someone over the internet or through instant messaging can be equally wonderful and stressful. Regardless of whether you’ve met yet or not, if you’re into someone, you’re going to want to talk to them constantly. For some, that can be an amazing thing. For others, however, it may be annoying or unbearable. If you get the sense that someone may not be as talkative over text, have less to say, or even just prefer to speak in person, you need to respect that. Pushing constant communication and contact can come off as aggressive, rude, and desperate, and turns people off. On the other hand, keep in mind that if the communication is dying out and becoming less frequent, its possible they’re not that into you. Talking online is a difficult game to figure out, but it’s best to keep some room for Jesus and not to smother them.
6. Don’t Give Up
Above all, keep trying. The internet is a big place, and online dating is full of countless amounts of people looking for companions. You’ll go on many dates, and all of them but one (in theory) are going to fail, and that’s okay. Being the best representation of yourself and respecting your dates, however long they may be, are going to get you farther than anything else. You’ll get your feelings hurt, you’ll get discouraged, and you’ll want to give up. The important thing is, don’t! Despite the difficulty and stress, dating has never been more accessible than now, and the effort put into trying to meet people will pay off.
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